Reverse Psychology

Reverse psychology is defined as telling a person something that is the opposite of what you want them to do or actually believe. The idea was enforced by two German psychologists--Adorno and Horkheimer. The duo's theory that people respond in an opposite or reverse direction of what they are told has been tested and proved since the ideas debut in the late 1970s. Want to test the theory out? Here are some tips on how to use reverse psychology.



Step 1:

Understand that reverse psychology in dating can work to a big advantage. If he is playing hard to get and just wants to be friends, girl you can say that you agree and just want to be friends as well. Say that you think this is actually better and what you want as well. Guys, does she say that she is not ready to spend the night with you? Comeback with reverse psychology and tell her that you agree and think waiting is best. These are just a few ways using reverse psychology can keep your partner guessing and help in a dating relationship.



Step 2:

Keep in mind that parents are probably some of the biggest fans of reverse psychology. Many incorporate techniques into their parenting style and don't even realize it. Reverse psychology works well with children because many just want to do the opposite of what mom or dad is telling them. Use reverse psychology techniques sparingly though. Overuse can lead to self-esteem issues with your children so choose your words and situations carefully. Its not for everyone. A great way to incorporate reverse psychology as a parent is at the dinner table. If your child doesn't want to finish their dinner saying something such as "Bet you can't eat six more bites of your meal (or the rest of your veggies)" has been known to work time and time again.


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At work reverse psychology can lead to the corner office, salary increases or even a promotion. Sales people often use reverse psychology techniques to sell a product by making the consumer or client believe they are worse off without it. How do you do this? Establish a strong guarantee and eliminate the risk. Grab attention and let your customer know that you have more to lose than they do through the product or deal. This technique can boost productivity and sales. Trying a new slant never hurts as well.


Step 4:

Use reverse psychology on your parents or family. Teenagers often can use reverse psychology to manipulate parents into weekend parties, shopping trips and extra allowance money. Oftentimes refusing or saying that the party at Anne's this weekend doesn't sound too much fun will often work on a parent (the same way the used reverse psychology on the kids growing up).


Step 5:

Whatever reverse psychology technique used be sure to practice and make it believable. Having a reputation as a manipulator is not good but using these techniques to help further relationships for better can be successful.